Saturday, March 21, 2009

The Box

I have a new folder on my computer.  It's called "The Box".  I created this folder after the end of another relationship because I decided I needed a place to store memories that I wasn't ready to trash, but preferred to get them out of the way so I could not accidentally stumble upon them.

Who would have ever guessed we'd reach an era where we'd need to establish "cyber-attics"?  Instead of a shoebox to keep old photos, letters written on fading paper, odds and ends that spark misty memories, we now need a minimum amount of mega-bytes on a hard drive.

In this age of digital photography, e-mails, IM's, file sharing, social networking, and all other forms of electronic communication and connection, letting go of a relationship is no longer as easy as washing that man/woman right outta your hair.  This stuff sticks around.

A recent photo taken during one of our last dates was sent to me through e-mail.  I opened the attachment, which created a permanent file automatically stored in my "Downloads" folder.  Then I saved the file with a filename and put it into my "Pictures" folder.   I wanted to share it with friends, so I attached the saved file to a new e-mail, which stored a copy in my "Sent" folder.  One moment in time.  One memory.  Four copies that will last a lifetime.

I'm not ready to trash the photo.  I've ditched a lot of the e-mails, gone through the IM logs and thrown out as much as I dare to at this point.  I'm not getting any younger.  My opportunity to create new memories is fairly less than it used to be, so I'm a little more particular about what I keep and what I try to forget.  In a few more years, I'll be struggling a lot more to remember, and these photos - now a little painful to look at - may remind me of times when I did feel happiness and when I was in love and when I knew the intimate closeness of another soul next to mine.

Of course, one errant virus or slip of the finger on the wrong key, and I could end up losing these electronic bits and pieces of my life's data anyway.

Maybe I should burn it to a CD.....

1 comment:

Unknown said...

Back up, back up, back up!!! I have an external drive that I use to back up EVERYTHING!! I periodically have to go through it and clean it out, but everything is on there so that it is safe!!

That being said...

Sometimes people forget to stop and take in a memory of events. I myself can honestly tell you there have been relationships in my life for which there is literally no record other than a few memories. No pictures, emails, IMs, nothing. I should be more active in creating memories for myself... I'm gonna be 30 soon... THATS OLD!!!! LOL!!!